I have sat back and really started thinking about my heart, my life, my mind. I have realized that a lot of my anger isn’t because of me, but because i’m sooo worried about what everyone else thinks about me, do people think i’m stupid for staying with my spouse after the affair? I am so worried that if we do work out, that my “friends” will talk about me, say i’m stupid, think i have no self-respect. Will think low of me, so i feel like i shouldn’t even attempt to work on my marriage, because everyone else thinks it is unforgivable what he did. Why do I care? I have never been that person who cares what anyone thinks about me, why now? I think all my life i have been very strong-headed and felt like who cares if i have friends, or if people like me, and now it’s like what others think matters. The fact that i have kids doesn’t help, but i know that i am looking at all this wrong. I need not worry about what everyone else thinks because in the reality of it is that if they are truly my friends, they will respect my opinion and choices.
I have been so lost for so long, that i am not sure were to go rather it be right or left. I have been looking at my inner self to figure this out. I have so much anger inside of me, but i have come to realize that it’s because i do allow others to get into my head, and let them make the decisions for me or makes me feel like i deserve better than what i have. I do deserve better, but then is it that he never loved me? I think he did, i just think we were at such a low point in our marriage, that if this never happened, we would have walked away or killed each other (not literally). I think that maybe this has opened our eyes to reality. Nothing in life is perfect, and though we all make choices rather good or bad, we made them. Does every deserve forgiveness? If you ask God yes they all do. Does everyone deserve a second chance? That i’m still lost on and am not sure about. But i do have to figure this out on my own, without the influences of others feeding into my heart. I need to figure out how to tell people if they want to talk bad about him, then to just keep it to themselves. If they are around and the two of us are together and he grabs my hand or i hold his hand, don’t look at it with disgust. Respect my decision on attempting to work on my marriage. Don’t say that you hope we work our, or you believe we will and then be negative about it, or make me feel like a complete dumbass for trying.
I heard this song and feel in love with it so i wanted to share it with you, and this is also how i feel the beginning of the song, i want to feel like the middle to end of the song.