So I have been asked why I stopped talking about my marriage. I will explain.
I am just so empty inside of my heart when it comes to my marriage. I am just numb when it comes to working it out. I feel right now that we are not together because we love each other or because we want our marriage, we are only together because of the kids and financially it is better for me and my kids. So how do you talk about your marriage, when there is nothing there. I have given up, i’m tired of trying and getting no where with it. I have fought and fought for something to change and all I got was empty promises. He has never kept one promise to me, and when I look at him I have sooo much anger inside of me I want to strangle him. But it’s not worth it at all, my kids need me so sitting in jail is worthless. I have spoken to my oldest daughter because she gets it more about leaving and she doesn’t like it. She says she needs her daddy, and that mommy and daddy’s have to stay together because God says so. They don’t know what he did, they are to young to really get that, and then again I don’t know if I want to tell them that. It may be something I never mention to them, i’m not really sure yet. Time will tell, but right now I am not going to say anything to them.
I am alone in this and don’t know what to do. I walk this by myself, I talk to people about it, but now i’m very picky about what I say to anyone. Yes, we fight, and I may tell people things here and there, but no like I use to. I guess I am still feeling betrayed by some people by them going and telling other people, when I don’t feel like it was their right or the other people’s business, and yet they took it upon them selves to tell them. What people don’t understand is that they are not the one that was made a fool of, I was and so while you walk around with your head high around these people, I sit back and think wow they must think i’m the dumbest girl ever to stay with him and attempt to work it out. So even though I haven’t said anything to any of the people who told others, and I will never say anything, it just lets me know that if anything ever happens severely between him and I that I will not say anything to them about it.
I think also I stopped talking about it was because I wanted to focus on my children, and just love them to the best of my ability and just give them my all. It is just hard to deal with life and i’m trying.
However; I have given up on my marriage and see it now as a business contract and nothing more. Will he ever see that, I have no clue, but I don’t know if I will or can live like this much longer. Only time will tell. I just keep praying that something will open his eyes, but nothing has. And i’m to the point when I don’t think anything will ever open his eyes, and when or if I leave, he will blame me and say I didn’t try which is fine. Selfish people should NEVER get married, because you have to be selfless to make a marriage last, and he is selfish and only cares about himself and no one else.